Letter to my younger self… Lessons from the 20’s I wish I knew earlier
Dear younger ME,
Exactly 3 months and 3 days ago, I turned 30. Even though I am a firm believer that some people feel old at 19, whereas some young at 90, I had to accept the fact that I am not in my 20’s anymore. At first, I did not want to accept that, mostly because I felt younger, and people were not giving me more than 25 – lucky me.
My 20’s were full of “mistakes”… most of which I am proud of. Many people might say: How can you be proud of your mistakes?! Well, I am proud because if those SITUATIONS did not occur and the LESSONS LEARNT along the way, I would not have been the person that I am TODAY!
I am writing to you not because I want to stop you from making the same “mistakes”, but to give you certain advices that for sure will enhance your life quality:
Invest in yourself – Educate yourself
Read as much as possible – every single day! Read about the things you love, have passion about and are fond of. Read and learn about the lives of other people – especially the successful ones, the leaders, the doers; about the things that fascinate you. The richness of your life relies solely on your imagination. Is there a better way of enhancing your imagination than reading?
Explore, Observe and Learn
Every day is an opportunity to learn and experience something new. Every day is a chance to spot an opportunity and make an impact. Be present at the moment. Don’t just wander with your thoughts. Let your surrounding be your best teacher!
Take advantage of every opportunity to travel somewhere, especially to places that you have never been before. The world offers endless possibilities. Do not travel where the majority go. You are different. Do not follow the crowd. Travel to places that will challenge you. Travel to places where you can learn, where you can see things that are not found elsewhere. How would you know and understand the depth of your imagination and creative thinking if you have not seen nor understood the depth of your universe?
Pain is good
To live a life and not feel a pain… Is like not living at all! Don’t get me wrong… I do not enjoy pain either. But how can one feel pleasure, pain – free? You can’t! In order to truly appreciate the beauty and pleasure of life, you have to experience pain.
You will be hurt – by most of the people! Even the closest ones. Don’t despair. Find strength and rise up. It is in the moments like this that you will find your true self and rise to your full potential.
Networking and People
Visit events and mingle with as many people as you can. Become a master in communication and storytelling, because in time, you will become an expert in whatever field you choose since you have the capability and the capacity to excel. However, nothing of this matters if you are not surrounded by people with whom you can share this, hence take full advantage of your knowledge and communication skills.
As your life progresses, you will meet different people. Some will help you and support you, others will try to drag you down with them towards their level. But, that’s OK – it part of the game that we all call LIFE. In time, you will realize that most people are average and will settle for everything that life serves them. Very few people are extraordinary… and they will change your life. If you want to be an A player, hang out with A players. But first, FIND THEM!
Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers… Surround yourself with people that will help you in your journey. No wonder that it is said: Tell me the 5 persons that you spend most of the time with, and I will know everything about you!
Spend your resources wisely
Our time is limited so stop working for someone else’s dream. Stop wasting your time and gift. Stop watching TV. Stop working for others. Stop trying to please everyone around you. Stop wasting your time for people that do not bring out the best of you! So, whatever you do NOW – STOP! Look around you and make yourself a PRIORITY. Schedule your most valuable resource – TIME, to fit the dynamics of your life and fill it with activities that support your short and long-term goals. If you fail to plan your time, your time (read YOU) will most certainly be part of someone’s PLAN.
I am not saying that you should not look up for a job. Job is fine. It is a decent way of gaining experience the safer way. If you go that way, find a BOSS that will MENTOR you. Someone who is willing to share his / her knowledge and experience and help you become a better version of yourself.
There is a saying: There are two things that define you: Your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything. Well, the 20’s can be also called the nesting age – where patience is everything. Learn as much as possible from every possible source. Develop and shape your mindset towards the desired state and start turning your dream into a reality. You have already started your journey in your mind. Make the first steps! At the beginning, they might appear very small, but remember: Nothing worth doing was achieved in a short period. It required tremendous courage, action plan, effort but most importantly – patience to build it. And this requires time…
Nothing to lose and everything to gain!
Life is a beautiful journey. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain! Failure is part of the equation towards SUCCESS. In fact, failure does not even exist. It is just a psychological concept that should stop you from reaching your full potential and your dreams. Choose your wordings carefully! Replace failure with situation, because that is what it is – a moment where you can apply the lessons from the past and learn something new. During the ride, try to build as many things as possible. Some of those things will fail, others will succeed. Find a pack of lions or wolves that share your traits. Don’t settle for sheep – unless you want to became one!
Till our next letter!
Your future self
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